Rants & Raves

This is the place to vent about the men in your life. Have a rant or rave you want to get off your chest? Send it in! And check out the stories below. I bet you'll find something that sounds familiar....

From Christy:

Ok, so I was friends with this guy (John) and I was over at his house one night and I was outside and he came out and was talking to me about how I should come over more often and how he has been looking for a girlfriend and how he's never met a girl like me. So I'm really into this guy and then I ask him what he wants and what we're going to do.... Well he asks me to "be with him", so I'm thinking relationship.... Wrong, all he wanted was sex. After we had sex, he only wanted to be friends. Can you believe him? Asking me to be with him and then doing that shit. I HATE MEN.

I met this guy in the club. I was also on the rebound from a freshly broken 3-year relationship. Well, this guy was almost the complete opposite of my former boyfriend. I think that's why he attracted me. Anyway, to make a long story short...he ended up ripping me of about $5k in the end. He tore up a Bronco I had only driven for 1 week even. Well it took me a while to see what was going on, but when I did, I cut things off. Well, he went crazy. He even came to my boyfriend's house. After that experience, I realized my ex wasn't so bad. My boyfriend was at work. As soon as he pulled in the driveway I called my boyfriend. Well, it started with him telling me he's sorry about things. I had also caught him cheating on me with a girl I met through him! He's sorry, he wants to talk, etc... When I told him to leave or I would call the police, he snapped. He started yelling at me, cussing, threatning me and calling me awful names. Finally he left...

That was three years ago. I just saw him on the news last week. He's being charged with manslaughter. Apparently, he found a girl that was extremely naive. The bad thing is, she had a kid. He allegedly killed this girl's kid, the details aren't known yet, but it's a definate wake-up call for me. In conclusion, I realized that I had taken everything I had been with my boyfriend and transferred it all over to this guy, trust and all. I have learned to not trust anyone out there in the dating scene. NO ONE. Ladies, please learn from this story. From the outside, he was my knight in shining armour, come to rescue me from my unappreciated world. In the end, he could have been my demise?

I am so angry!!! I found your website by typing 'I hate men' on Google's search page, just steaming. I am so close to completely giving up on men. I don't think it's so much that they are mean, but that they are incredibly stupid. They don't know what they feel, or why they do anything they do. They don't even know what they want.

I live in Wisconsin. A while back this guy hit on me after church, and he asked me out. Twice. The second time, he invited me over to his parents house to meet his mother. I knew he had to go back to New Jersey for school in a couple of days (and I do give him credit for not mentioning that he happens to attend Princeton University - pastor told me that). But after the last time we saw each other, I was wondering if we'd ever see each other again. He assured me that we would, and instead of demanding a time frame, I trusted him that he'd be reasonable. Well, that was a big mistake. I finally had to flat out ask him last night on the phone, "Can you give me an estimate on how long it will be until we'll see each other again?" He said, "That's hard to say." I said, "Yeah, I know. That's why I used the word 'estimate'." He finally stopped avoiding my question, and said "3 months". I was upset. He said he didn't want me to be unhappy. So I told him that in order to be happy, I'd have to see him at least once a month, or not at all. I told him it "just doesn't work", not seeing him more often. He TOTALLY copped out with the "I can't" excuse, which of course translates into "I won't". He told me "I only come 'home' once or twice a year." Eventually, he did admit that he had "other things to spend money on". So, not only am I a "thing" now, but also I'm certainly not an important thing - not a priority.

HELLO!!!!! He owed me this information by the end of the second date!!! Duh!! He should have said, "Hey, just so you know, I'm not gonna be able to come back to Wisconsin for several months, so this is just for fun, okay?" That's all he would have had to do!! What a jerk. He wants me to meet his mom, and then he leaves me with absolutely no idea when he'll return. He romanced me, all the while knowing full well that he wouldn't be able to keep it up. Maybe long-distance relationships work for some people, and that's fine, but the least he could have done was TELL ME BEFORE HE LEFT!!! I know he purposely kept it from me, so I'd go on the second date. Well, he was right - if I'd known, I probably wouldn't have gone on the date. It hurts too much when you start to get close to someone and then they leave like that, and he just doesn't understand that.

Men are PIGS! Now what I have to rant about has nothing to do with me, but it still pisses me off. My best friend and I have known this certain farm animal since high school and he was an alright guy. The two of us would occasionally hang out with him, and she and him would flirt but that was it. That was until a few weeks ago. She and I were at a weekend long party and he was there also. He was very flirty and she was into him. He had a girlfriend and she respected that even though he told her that the two of them were on the rocks. All he kept telling her was that if they did anything that he would feel way too guilty. Well, that was an act because by Saturday night he was making out with my friend and had his hands all over her. They were drinking, but that doesn't mean sh*t. When she and I left Sunday afternoon he kissed her goodbye and said he would call her. Now when he kissed her goodbye on Sunday afternoon he had no alcohol in his system so that blew that excuse. Plus he did call her and they hung out four times. Each time he would start the evening off telling her how confused he was and that he did want to be with her he just didn't want to break his girlfriends heart. Then all of a sudden after a night full of kissing and so on. He kissed her goodbye and didn't call her for a week and a half. My friend was so confused so she called him left a message and he never called back. Now that S.O.B it's turns out had been going around telling all of our mutual friends that she wouldn't leave him alone and that he hated her. What kind of person does something like that. Only a man could do something sick and childish like that. Why couldn't he have just talked to her like a normal person if he wanted to stay with his girlfriend. After all we are supposed to be people not animals.

Men can be jerks and treat girls like crap. I know a lot of guys I've been with treated me like crap. But this one guy I know is the sweetest nicest best guy in the whole world. His name is Ricky H. from AL. Many guys just try to get a girl and then treat her bad. Not Ricky. Whenever he gets a girl, he treats her like an angel every day. No matter the circumstance. Ricky is obviously the best guy in the whole world. I dont think he could do any wrong. So all you girls out there that think all guys are shit, I think you should see Ricky H!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Aren't guys supposed to want sex ALL THE FREAKIN TIME? Obviously not my man. He's either too tired or not the the mood. Boo Hoo. He should suck it up like a real man instead of bitching like a little girl. I have NEVER EVER heard of a man who didn't want sex. It's PATHETIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dated a SOCIOPATH!! It all started at my friend's house. We were all drinking and this guy named Chris was there. From the stories I heard, My friends and family kept telling me he was violent cause apparently he just got out of jail for charges against him from his last girlfriend. The story was that they had an argument because she had been gone all day and she came home accusing him of cheating on her 'cause his best friend's g/f was there. A fight broke out (blah blah) and she broke a beer bottle over his head and he pushed her on the floor. (I think she was used to his abuse.) She ran out the back door to her best friend's trailer and as she was opening the door he pushed against her and I don't know what really happened but apparently he was beating her while her best friend's boyfriend was hiding in the closet watching this piece of shit do this. The law got called and he was charged with breaking and entering - not really charged with the crime really commited. Anyway, he spent 9 months in jail. His ex-girlfriend apparently moved to another state 'cause I think she was scared of what he might do.

Anyway lets get to my situation. We met at my cousin's house. He was hanging out with my ex-boyfriend ''which were all alcoholics'' We were all drinking. He was laying down on the hood of a car so I went over and talked to him. We layed there and talked. He seemed like a very sweet guy so he asked me out. At first, it seemed kinda strange. It didnt feel like a normal relationship. I couldn't trust him. He was a compulsive liar. He always thought about his greedy needs but I seemed to ignore it 'cause I liked the son of a bitch for some ungodly reason. Stupid I guess.

So about a month or two went by. He was drinking whiskey one night (we were living together in the same trailer park as the last incident with his last g/f). I was all upset 'cause I had bad anxiety attacks. He had just laid down in the bed ... couldnt have been 2 minutes. I started crying and went to go wake him up to just talk to me 'cause I was upset (he never was a lovable guy, only when he wanted somthing.) I started shaking him '' lightly'' not vigorously. So he looks at me, he says ''fucking stop'' and grabs my arm and twists it. But dumbass me, I still try and talk to him. He eventually gets up and pushes me against the wall then shoves me in the living room and calls me a ''cunt'' and ''stupid bitch.'' His friend was on the couch watching the whole thing like ''duhhh'' never acknowledging what was going on like I deserved it. (motherfucker) The next day he never says he's sorry, doesn't even talk to me or even look at me.

One thing about sociopaths, when they do the stupid violent shit they do, their drunk and worthless friends will believe them over you. Sociopaths are coniving backstabbing sweet talkers. ''Poor pitiful me, I hit her but I'll deny it till my face turns blue'' so to speak. We'd been togethor for 4 months. I ended up pregnant. I wasnt expecting that. I was 19. He was 26. He already had 2 daughters from his previous marriage (which he has nothing to do with). He said he was too ashamed to call her, 'cause he's so neglectful of his 2 girls. He doesn't pay any child support. He doesnt even call 'em to wish them a happy b-day. So he gets jobs that take no tax money out and most of all... don't take child support out. Cops cant find him. I ended up leaving him in jail 'cause something valuable had been missing and the only person I could think of that would take something valuable to pawn off for beer money would be Chris. So I put a block on my phone so he couldnt call. He still sent me letters ''I love you, I love you'' crap.

I heard he got out of jail and I was lonely and I missed him. Dumbass me. I had put an EPO on him and I still went back to him. So I moved in with him in a trailer that his mom and dad owned and Chris knew he could live for free there 'cause for some reason, they paid our bills 'cause Chris would promise them money and never pay. Those next few months were total mental abuse from him. ''You're so stupid'' is all I ever heard from him. We never had sex unless he was in the mood. I was a bitch whore slut cunt...I was called everything but a white girl I guess you could say. He never bought me anything...didn't even buy anything for the baby. Finally she was born. Even though I lost my freedom, he sure as hell didn't. He still drank and after she was born, he started to get physical with me. Three weeks after she was born, I went ahead and looked for a job because his lousy 5.15 wasnt cutting it. All he did was get high and ride around at a golf course with his new smoking buddy. The same day that I got my job, he says he got a job at his old employment at a pipe industry. So one evening, I went to my mom's and called this place up and they said ''No, he doesnt work here and he hasn't worked here in over a year.'' I was like WTF.

So that night he was drunk and I got enough guts up to ask him why he lied to me. He denied it and got mad 'cause I found out. So his buddy from work was there and the baby was laying on the floor playing with some toys. I went to the bathroom and he came in there and started cussing me out. It was a two door bathroom so i tried opening the other door and he slammed it and it hit my face. I was like, "Ouch, that shit hurt." And he said, ''Oh, that didnt hurt you.'' So I sat down in the floor and shut up 'cause he wouldn't let me speak , 'cause if I did it would just make him madder. I started getting scared and got claustrophobic and couldn't breathe too well. And I was begging him to please let's talk about this in the living room. He said, ''Hell no.'' We were standing up so I started hugging him and begging him to please stop so he would calm down. He hugged me back and the next thing I know, he spins me around and puts me in a chokehold and chokes me. I was saying his name but that didn't matter. I blacked out and the next thing I see is his feet as he's walking out the door. So I raise up surprised and shocked that if he loved me as much as he says he does, why did he do this to me? Why? Thats not love. I walked in the living room and his buddy was holding the baby and looking shocked. Chris sat down beside him and started crying like he felt sorry. BS. At least 5 or 6 total times that Chris physically abused me, his friend set and let it happen like it was no big deal, like I deserved it or something. What crossed my mind was that Chris was telling his friends totally different stories...like I was a bad person and that I deserved whatever Chris gave me.

Finally one evening, me and Chris were fighting and he started slapping me until I was a woozy and he was egging it on. There was a shovel handle beside the door so I whipped around to grab it and hit him in the kidney with it. He grabs the shovel handle and throws it to the ground and puts himself in the position to get behind me and started choking me. He does and I call out to Jacob and he jumps up and pulls Chris off me and says, ''Dude, get off her, you're bigger than her and you know it!" So he stops and looks at me and says, ''Fuck with me again, I dare you.'' He starts telling Jacob he better leave him alone but never does anything to Jacob

Even though all the dirty shit he's done to me, I still took him back 'cause I loved him and I thought he could change and be a real responsible man. I'm tired of typing but all I'm saying is they'll never make you happy. They'll lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate you into thinking it'll be wrong to leave them and that you'll never find anyone that will ''love you as much as they do!'' Okay, whatever. He's done more to me than I've written down. It's all too much to type. He's choked me, back-handed me, twisted my arms (left plenty of bruises) and he's dragged me across the road with my head in a headlock. He even tried to kick me in the stomach one time while I was pumping gas 'cause I said, ''Fuck you'' but he didn't 'cause this other guy pumping gas was watching and that ''might make him look bad.'' He even told me that I didn't love my daughter. How cold is that? He even looked at me with a straight face. He's even come in the bedroom while our daughter was asleep and would bitch and scream at the top of his lungs to get his point through. And she would wake up screaming, scared to death of what was going on. Now she can't even sleep a full night without waking up and crying at least twice a night. He even looks at her and says '' no'' and she starts crying. Finally, I couldnt take it anymore 'cause I was driving myself crazy of when the next time he'll hurt me or the baby. Who knows? Only his sick twisted mind does. All I'm saying is stay away from these people. They are very dangerous. They don't know their own strength. They don't love or care about anyone but themselves. Thank you!

I hate men so much, sometimes I wish I could give them up. I have only dated 5 men. One good man but we didn't have anything in common. He was too uptight and didn't like to have fun. One was too controlling and had abusive tendencies. One ended up being bi-sexual and a player and the other two ended up being married!!! How can I have dated 2 married men when I have only dated 5 men? At first I thought it was me, my fault or something, then I just realized 95% of men are not worth the time of day!

I had to send you this 'cos I really cant believe it myself! I was talking to my boyfriend the other day and guess what? Apparently I talk too much and it would be ok as long as I dont express my opinions! Can you believe it? I couldn't. I said, "What the hell do you want? Some stupid bimbo that has nothing else to say for herself except that she's having her nails done on tuesday? Fuck off." I am NOT all boobs and no mouth and I wont be treated like that by any man. MEN WILL NEVER SUPPRESS OR SILENCE WOMEN AND GOD HELP THE MAN WHO TRIES. I have so many other complaints but it would take years to write them all down. Thanks for listening.

I was attacked by a group of guys when I was in eighth grade and raped when I was a freshman in college. Hid everything and blamed myself like so many do. Anyway, I ended up with so much self-loathing that I looked for relationships that would fulfill my own expectations of myself. I think I was subconsciously looking to be punished for what I considered MY sins. So my first marriage ended up in divorce because he was emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive. Married a second time - same situation sans divorce. Finally realized that most criminals are eventually released from prison and that even their punishments end so it was time to quit punishing myself. I decided that something needed to change so I lost 100 lbs., started taking hapkido which is a martial art that's taught for self-defense and now my husband is treating me with the self-respect that I now demand from every relationship. Taking self-defense gave me a sense of pride and an ability to defend myself using punch and kick blocks, and different holds that can vary in the amount of pain inflicted on the attacker based on THEIR behavior. I'm 5'4" and 135lbs. and can throw a 200 lb. man across a room - talk about empowering. You don't have to tell what kind of class you're taking - I have never been in better shape, emotionally, spiritually, or physically and there's a whole new world out there. We need to remember we have to look past who we are to see who we can become.

Thank you very much for an absolutley wonderful site which I needed very much at this moment. To say "I hate men" is a major understatement, and I really honestly feel that I am sometimes at a point where I could do something very violent and very bloody to a whole lot of them and enjoy it oh so much. I was beaten up and emotionally abused by my ex-husband for 5 years, then I proceeded to (very stupidly and trustingly) get involved with a married man for the next 4 years (whom I did not know was married.. oh derr....) and now I am raising two more of the testosterone soaked individuals by myself, who fight constantly and are slowly driving me insane. I realize that you criticise the English of many of the men that email you but I beg you from the bottom of my heart not to do the same to me. I wish MORE than anything that I was a lesbian and often say a prayer begging for "a change" to occur but (sadly) I am not and still love and long for a half decent man. Am I naive or what? I have recently worked in a "massage centre" as a hand reliever and now realize that the chances of meeting a decent male are very slim and probably non-existant. Married girls, I do believe that is where your husband is right now. So to end a sad, sad story I now religiously watch "Queer as Folk" and hope more than anything that I return as a gay male at the hands of Brian Kinney. Once again, thank you very much for your site. One of the spawn are once again demanding some kind of attention but it does make me feel SO much better to know I am not the only one.

I've got a story to top them all. My husband and I have been together for 4 years, and married for 3 of them. It wasn't until after we moved in together that I found out he had a second daughter with someone else. I forgave him, because he didn't lie to me when I asked him about it (Stupid Me). After being with him for a while, his oldest daughter came to live with us, and I took her in as my own. She to this day calls me Mommy, and I consider her my own, even if we do split up. I have raised his daughter, cleaned his house, cooked his meals, taken care of the finances, put up with his mom who is a ROYAL PAIN IN MY BUTT, put up with the rest of his racist family, put up with his ex-wife (the mother of his oldest), put up with his ex-girlfriend (the mother of the one I didn't find out about until after the fact), put up with the stresses of being broke because he couldn't keep his dick in his pants before we met, put up with his name calling, put up with his lying and sneakiness, put up with the fact that he has been married twice before me and he was only 25 (WHY THE HELL DIDN'T I TAKE THAT AS A CLUE THAT HE WASN'T MARRYING MATERIAL?), I have put up with all of this, and he still has the nerve to tell me that I need to shape up. I am the only woman in his life who has been faithful to him, and who has been willing to be a caring mother for his daughter, and he wants to tell me to shape up 'cuz I won't put up with him being an asshole to me. I DON'T THINK SO!!! As far as I am concerned, with all this extra baggage he has brought into my life, HE IS THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO SHAPE UP!! He should be kissing my butt, my feet, and the ground I walk on to be with me. What gives him the right to think he has any room to be picky? He is not the one who has to worry about all the extra baggage, don't get me wrong, I love his daughter, and wouldn't trade her for the world, but I didn't have to sign up for this. I could have walked away and let him find someone else to be his and her mommy. This man is almost 30 years old, and he still acts like he is in high school. His name is Roman C, and many of you women out there probably know him, 'cuz before me, he didn't know how to keep it in his pants. He will never know how to keep a woman happy, and I feel sorry for his daughter having to grow up with him as a role model. The only way he will ever keep a wife is if she doesn't talk, cooks, cleans, has sex at his convenience, and has no self respect, oh yes, and she has to be Mexican, because he can't live without his screwed up mommy, who likes to run away all the white people in his life. She even treats his daughter differently, because she is half white, yet he still goes around her. This man has some serious issues, and as far as I am concerned, I am running as far away and as fast as I can, before he takes the last bit of dignity I have left. Women, we need to show these men that we are too good for this kind of treatment. Don't let them sweet talk you, and don't believe their versions of the stories of their past relationships, cuz 99.99999% of the time, they are lying out their you know whats. Next time, I am marrying a man who has no kids, no mom, no ex-wife, and no issues. In other words, I am staying single for the rest of my life, 'cuz that man does not exist. WE'VE GOT TO BE STRONG LADIES!!! SHOW THESE MEN WE WON'T PLAY THEIR GAMES!!!

Here in little Denmark, me and my girlfriends have a club called: We hate men...Our motto is, men are PIGS...And my ex is a perfect example. He cheated on me. When I was 5 months pregnant, I found him in bed with his best friend..Not so fucking cool...of course i left him...and his friend called me on the phone and told me that there was a girl in his apartment who claimed to to be my boyfriend's ( at that time) girlfriend. He had realy been playing around. But I can thank him for my lovely son...Thank you, you stupid fuck. I feel sorry for the next girls he will be playing around with...

No wonder why i hate men..

Just another girl, who really, really hates them pigs...

Ok so here goes.... I went out with this guy for about 5 months. The other day his friend came up to me and said that he didn't want to go out with me anymore. So I had called him to see what was up and he said that he just didn't like me anymore and that he liked this other chick. So that right there just pissed me off and the way that he approached me about the whole thing and couldn't be a man and do it himself pisses me off even more. I just don't get why men try to act sooo tuff and then when it comes to girls they get all wimpy and cant do things themselves!!!

I have been in this fucked-up relationship for almost 8 years. I have a 3 year old child by the bitch. He's always lying about stupid shit. Everytime I try leaving him alone, he gets into his begging mode. I sometimes think I'm evil because I have wished I could kill him just so he can get the fuck away. I have tried putting other men in his face. I have told him I have fucked another men and he's still here. I have tried being with another woman again but it doesn't work because I love men and even through I enjoy being with a woman, I don't think it's right.

Today I left a cup in my man's car, which had lipstick on it. When gave me the car to go to the store, do you know the stupid dog tried to wipe the shit off the cup. I asked him what happened and he said he was drinking out of it. The coffee was dried up in the cup. I hate that bitch.

Doesnt it always start with your father? 85% of woman end up marrying someone very similar to their father. Well I curse my father!! I will never be able to forgive him for cheating on my mother (with a cocaine addict!), leaving his family when I was only 1 month old, and destroying what could have been a perfect life. What aggravates me the most is that he takes credit for rearing me into a fine young lady. He deserves no credit whatsoever. The only thing he ever gave me was genetic material and a few lousy child support checks. My mother deserves all of the credit. She was always there for me whenever I needed her. She took me to Europe, taught me French and Spanish, introduced me to fine foods and wine, educated me, brought me up with morals, and cultivated me into the wordly person I am today. I hate my father! YOU DID NOTHING FOR ME! Growing up without a male figure deprives growing girls from important life lessons, and depletes their confidence. This has been proven by pyschologists a many, and I am a classic example. I am going to defy the statistic that 85% of woman marry men like their fathers. I deserve better. My mother deserved better, all women deserve better. Asshole men like my father and despite the charm,wit, humor and intelligence, should be shot in the head solely based on principle. Despite my age, I do believe I have learned a lot in these 16 years I've lived. My reasoning may be jaded, but I know not to trust men unless they are unbelievably perfect, almost god like............and that is going to be impossible to find.

Every whim a man has is satisfied. For example, it is most thrilling for a man to watch two or more woman have sex with each other, and this perverse fantasy is always fulfilled for them. Either by a loving, willing girlfriend, whom they don't deserve, or by viewing some porno. What I'm asking is why do we do it for them? They certainly do not deserve it! Why should we gratify their perverse, petty, insignifignant needs like that, when they do so little for us? I hate the fact that I was born heteorosexual, in fact, boy crazy, this genetic predisposition is going to be the end of me. My sanity is already being worn away and I'm only 16 and have only been in 1 serious relationship.

See, I have been in two serious relationships in the past 2 years! My last b/f just dumped me April 3, 2003! It was our one year anniversary! He is a butt head and I hate his guts! My last relationship was an abusive one! He threw me into a car, choked me and hit me! So he went bye bye! But I guess all men aren't that bad but if they are real nice they just might be gay!! Isn't there any nice boyz out there for me?? Ughh...

A guy says he really likes you but nothing is ever going to happen because you're really good friends and he makes a point never to sleep with friends, and besides, he doesn't want to start a relationship with anybody right now because his previous experience has really destroyed his faith in women. So far, so predictable...but understandable. Then he decides that some slut from Stratford is the love of his life and worth breaking his vow for simply because she is a whore and is willing to put out before she has even gotten to know the guy. Well, I wish them both well. I wish she gives him genital warts from the one of the many encounters she had when she was working her patch last Friday night. May they both rot in hell writhing in agony, the lying cheating bastard!!!!

I dated this guy for a month and a half. We went out to eat, nice places, and pizza and beer. By the "and a half" portion of this program, he would call almost every day, hold my hand when he saw me, kiss me, and worse....he listened to me. Then we went out and he was talking about his ex-wife, and he said "if we start dating..." I'm thinking, "Aren't we dating??????"

I guess not. His father recently passed away, and he says he doesn't want to make any mistakes. His "dates" are "hanging out" and the people he hangs out with are "just friends". This was last Sunday. So I'm giving him credit for what he's going through, fine, I can hang out (He's not asking for exclusive hanging out). Yesterday, Saturday, he calls me, and leaves a message. I call back and he hangs up on me. Then he turns off phone. The next day (phone back on) he hangs up on me. Then he talks to me for two minutes and says he has to go. I feel like "excuse me, but YOU CALLED ME". I don't know how I got here. But YEAH, after a month and a half I trusted him, so I am HURT. I don't really care what's on his mind (I do) but he shouldn't treat people like this. And men wonder why they can't find a trusting woman. BECAUSE YOU F****** RUINED THEM ALL. Thanks for letting me vent.

There is a man that I have known for ten years. I fell in love with him the first time I laid eyes on him. About a year ago, his girlfriend of two years (who lived with me at the time) broke up with him. After several months of recuperation, he asks me out. I was way too thrilled. I gave this guy everything. I didn't argue, I didn't get mad or cheat or lie and I loved him unconditionally. He told me he loved me everyday ... he looked me straight in the eye and lied!! Last night, he came to me, crying, and said that he didn't know if he could love me or if he ever did. He said that he still loved his ex-girlfriend and didn't know if he could ever love anyone again. I said calmly that I was there for him... I always will be. It took all I had not to cry, but I succeeded. I let him cry on my shoulder for two hours while he told me what was wrong and how he never wanted to lose me, but he needed to know for sure if he loved me. So he broke up with me. I love him more than anything in the whole world. If I lost him, I don't know what I would do. After I dropped him off at his house, I cried. I cried for six hours and didn't sleep. I don't like men, I hate how they can hurt us so easily, but what I HATE is how much we need them.

My husband is an asshole. I swear if I ever get rid of him, I will never date another man in my lifetime. I am sick and tired of his underminding me when it comes to disciplining our daughter. If I tell her one thing, he tells her another. He has 4 kids from his first marriage and if he was such a great dad, how come none of his other kids talk to him? All he ever does is put down everything I do or say......OH!!!!!!! but when he wants sex, I am supposed to be at his beck and call.....WHATEVER!!!!!! I feel like making a voodoo doll of him, and poking him to pieces. LOL. Thanks anyways for letting me vent.

I really liked this guy for like 4 years but then we had to go our separate ways because we were moving and I haven't seen or heard from him; so, I figured I should try moving on already...I meet this guy and we were friends for like half a year and then he asked me out on our first official date then we kept dating and we became boyfriend and girlfriend. See the thing with guys is that they can never really tell how they feel ....well they can't express their feelings if they don't have any right? So at first I thought he was like a really nice guy and wasn't solely out with me for sex or anything like that...then once we became girlfriend and boyfriend he starts asking me for oral sex like all the damn time and I was like "No, are you out of your mind? I never even gave it to that other guy that I was truly in love with. We still don't even know each other for that long anyway." And so then he pops up with "I love you" like the next day and I said, "Well I don't ...and I hate when guys do that and don't mean it, so don't tell me that...." Then I was like venting to him about how all these guys have tried to just use me when me and that other guy were together then he says. "Oh I have to go" and before he gets off asks, "I just have one question ....when are you going to give me oral sex then because we have known each other for a while and you really should." RIGHT AFTER I DID MY VENTING TOO!! I broke up with him that weekend. On Valentine's Day he comes back to me on his knees (literally) and promising to not ask for that ever again and that he's miserable without me ...so, well, I had to take him back and a week later he asks for "it" and kept pressuring me so finally one day i just ....BROKE!! I just couldn't take it anymore and that was my first so I went home and felt like a dirty, useless piece of crap .....but he stayed with me and ...what I was scared of most was him leaving me after I put it out there like that so soon and then 3 days ago he meets this girl and actually tells me about it (what an insensitive bastard) then I went out of town for the weekend and he calls me and tells me that they had sex at his house and that we should break up because they have a lot in common .....after telling him he's like gum on the street and has no guts for telling me over the phone and that he should rot in hell or whatever ....I find out through one of my friends that the only reason he left me for her was....1) she gives him "what he needs" 2) she has a cell phone so that they can text message each other 3) and she knows how to drive....Well that's a whole lot in common right? (insert sarcasm here) ...Well that hurt because I tried to please him as best that I could even though I coudn't give him EVERYTHING he wanted....oh well ...The problem is that that was really low because now I feel like I did "that" to someone I didn't love and the one person that I did love (before him) didn't even get to share a first like that with me and now that he's gone we will never get to be intimate with each other ever .... GOD I HATE MEN!!

Guys: I hate guyz! Some guy asked me the other night if I was into the whole "one night stand" thing! Of coarse not! Why would I want to be used? Damn the Y!!! ( y chromosome = guyz )

Like you, I am a woman who thinks that all men are idiots, but I have to say we aren't exactly perfect. If you look at the amount of bitching girls do (I try not to) I find girls very evil and untrustworthy. Men are trustworthy until you sleep with them or go out with them then you never know that's when everything will go wrong.Like you, I am a woman who thinks that all men are idiots, but I have to say we aren't exactly perfect. If you look at the amount of bitching girls do (I try not to) I find girls very evil and untrustworthy. Men are trustworthy until you sleep with them or go out with them then you never know that's when everything will go wrong.

For the past 6months, I ask him, "How much do you love me and why?" and all he can come up with is, "Baby, you know why I loooooooooove you." Well, shit, if I knew then I wouldn't be asking. Why can't men express their feelings?

Okay, THIS is my little problem. What the hell IS it with this ridiculous unspoken link between men and their MOTHERS? Even if you're lucky enough not to get one that's menopausal such as I, mothers take it upon themselves to dictate e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g possible in the relationship, limiting and extending it (which is rare) to her little heart's desire. And the worst part? Their sons OBEY! Without so much as a complaint or even a slight rant. It seems as though they were wired to ward off any attempt you try at confrontation, even if you've taken the argument to its most logical pinnacle and PROVED that his mother is a overbearing heinous yatch with no apparent reason for acting like a neurotic Hitler, excepting of course the fact that you're taking her poor defenseless 21-year-old little boy away from her...gee, mom. Wouldn't want him to (gasp, horrors) move away...! Especially for something as trivial as a possible future wife!

I do realize that this negates the purpose for being on an "I Hate Men" website altogether, but the point is that if men would ACT as such and quit allowing mommy to control whatever she wants, this problem just wouldn't exist. In other words, they just don't have balls when they are most practical. Can I hear an amen?

I saw my ex last night when I went out,and I saw him leave with another woman. I was so hurt when I saw that,but unfortunately, when I saw him out last night, he was acting like a total retard so I've come to realize that I don't even want anyone like that in my life. He swears at me and drinks way too much and he also tried to get my best friend to kiss him. I'm like, "Oh my God." Why do guys do that? They must think that they're powerful over women or something. My best friend was like, "I'm not kissing you, Dwayne. I'm Brooke's best friend" That's what she told him so I'm happy that I have a friend like her in my life. It seems like every time I ask someone on the Internet questions about me and my life, no one ever gets back to me and I'm really grateful you did. Thank you sooo much .....YOU ROCK !!! And I'm going to keep visiting your website all the time.

First I have to say that I love this site... What brought me to this site is that my husband and I had a fight before he left for work and it was never settled. We have been married since October 23, 2002 and ever since, he thinks he owns me and I hate it. He is always accusing me of sleeping with other men and women. (I am bisexual) I am a firm believer in what my grandmother used to say: If you accuse then you are probably doing it. I have my hunches but no proof. I am sick of him. MEN DRIVE ME CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have just had the worst experience of my life. I was working at a mortgage company for about 8 months and I was getting a little frustrated with my job so I was kind of looking for something new to get into. I had started talking on the phone with a guy that I thought was pretty sincere and honest (even though I had no real evidence of how he was). I met him about 2 years before. We would chat back and forth and I had told him how much I hated my job so he kept saying come work for him but it took me a while to make up my mind. Finally in Dec of 2002 I said ok. I decided to go ahead and give my two week notice and take a vacation that I had planned 6 months before and then I would come back and start working for Mr. Mitchell on Jan. 1st. I got a little bored and wanted to start working for him earlier than the 1st but he said no, wait until Jan. 1st but it was something about the way he asked me to wait.

So anyway I started... hold on let me go ahead and break all of this down for you or it could take all night to explain. We had a verbal agreement that I would work for him for $500 a week no matter how little work I did. I moved out of my apartment, left my job, rented a truck and paid for a room for him to go out of town, put the new apartment in my name and all of the bills, and added a cell phone for him onto my bill. He never paid me for my two months of work, never paid the rent on the new apartment (so now I owe $6200), never paid the household bills or the cell (I owe $2000 for that) and I trusted him to move my furniture and he sold some of it, and now he acts like I don't exist. Why, why, why, did this happen to me? Because of him, I had to move back to my mother's house and I haven't worked in a month. I hate men so bad it hurts. I no longer have any trust for men at all.

I saw you on the Ricki Lake show and was glad to see someone else hates men. I have been married to 3 of them and they have all been losers. Guess I just pick the wrong kind. Drug addicts, alcoholics and woman beaters, liars and thieves. I find I do much better alone. I don't drink to escape the abusive situation and I don't have to walk on egg shells. More power to women who can live without a man. A man needs a woman but a woman doesn't need a man. A woman can get things and save money without a man. A man is like a child. They need someone to cook for them, clean for them, and do their wash. They will go out and pick up anything they can find and then come home and want to have sex with the wife. That is how AIDS gets around and all men can go to hell. Have a good day and thanks for having a place women can say what they want.

I've been cheated on several times. I have 2 small boys I love a lot. Right now I'm a stay at home mom, looking for work so I can gain my independence for me and my children. I've been looking every day for a job.

I have not read anything in the Rants and Rave page yet. Realizing the opportunity to scream about men, my mind was ready to purge. I feel I need to say and word this all beautifully but my frustration is too full. What I hate about men (98% of them):

*How I cannot say anything assertive without hostile oppostion..verbal/physical
*How my body is subject for discussion....
*How men can grab me without repercussion....
*How I am seen as a violent feminist...
*How for 8 years I still go in circles with bulimia...
*How when I write, I censor my own thoughts according to others...
*How I feel like I need a man to complete me...
*How when I was little, a brother instructed me to touch him and out of love I wanted to please...
*I hate men because I know I am still in the midst of their illusions and that those more ignorant suffer a greater pain...
*I hate men because we carry their burden...
*I hate how they love it when girls fight (physically/emotionally) and most of the time I take part in the girl bashing...
*How girls are afraid of each other and we are too separated by jealously to get close....
*How men love this since we seek them more in return....
...and so on and on....

My future ex to be is so stupid. I have a family wedding to go to like he would even go. He tells me that I will have a lot of fun going. And then adds be careful. What a jerk. Oh but he could not say, "Hey, would you like me to go and if you do, don't come to pick me up because my parents are stressed because I have this on again off again relationship with you and they are pretty upset with you because they can not see your daugher." Well lick my ass you son of a bitch. Because it will be a cold day in hell before I get back with you and allow your parents to see my daughter. I can not believe the nerve. After all of this, he states that since he has been living with his parents for a while, we need to keep low key about seeing each other and not to do it while he is in their house. Whatever.

Tell me what you think of this: I was dating a guy - no commitment. We were able to date other people and if one of us met someone we wanted to be with, we would be friends and stop sleeping together. He treated me great. Well, he met someone and I began getting calls when he was or was not visiting me. Then on Christmas Eve, he got an e-mail from someone about his new friend then he got another and he is blaming me. I did not do it. He told me after the first call that if he received another call he would not see me or the other person. Now he is not talking to me and does not want me to ever call him again. This is after three-ears and we said we would remain friends. He also blocked my name from his e-ail. Hs family said that it was handled wrong and they want to keep in touch with me. I should but I don't hate men.

My son's father dumped me five months ago. And why did he do that? Because I won't kiss his ass. I won't do what he wants me to do and I won't feel the way he wants me to feel. These men out here today are the worst things that God could have created. They are lazy, smelly, human garbage disposals that lack good, clean common sense. That's why women mature faster, live longer, and are just all-around smarter. I wish that we could push all of these shiftless men off the face of the earth and throw a big freedom party.

All I have to say is that everyone has a right to be stupid some of the time but men are clearly abusing the privilege. The kind of stupidity is my ex and father of my son, Karl K. I really don't know how we conceived a child. Better yet, I don't know how he knew where to put it. I guess that's why men are so tired after sex. They had to use what little brain power that they do have to find the hole. Well ladies, we all know. Hail to the Kind of the Idiots!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok I'm only 19 but it seems to me that no matter what age, men are ALWAYS "just not ready for a commitment"!!! I've been with this guy for 2 and a half years and he sleeps with everyone!!! He tells me he loves me, we "make love", and then afterward, he tells me he slept with this girl in the same bed we just slept in!!!! Then he wants me to have his baby??????? What the FUCK!!! Men are
fucking clueless!!!! All men have a fucking excuse for being dogs:

1. I'm a man - what do you expect? (What the fuck - they're even admitting that men are dogs.)
2. I've been hurt in the past.
3. I'm just not ready. (Which translated means I AM READY to fuck you until your pussy stretches to the size of North America, but i'm not ready to be human.)
4. I thought you knew. (WHAT!!!!!!! You mean I was supposed to know you were a complete dog fucking x, y, and z. You mean I was supposed to know that even 2 years in the relationship that you were gonna mind fuck me to the limit...Well OK, that's exactly why I gave you my number, because I wanna hurt!!!)

I've always been looking for Mr. Right...every once in a while I thought I had found him, but I hadn't. Recently, I started dating a really good friend. At the time, I was convinced that he was the sweetest, most sincere guy I knew. Everything was fine, but he then stopped calling...then stopped answering when I called. And things just began to fall downhill. I was sitting online one night and some stranger instant messaged me and told me that my b/f was supposed to be going over to her house at 2 am to get drunk, do some *other things,* and pass out there. Well, of course I didn't want to believe her, but found it suspicious, being as he told me he had to leave my house at 2 am. So when I asked him about it, he denied it (of course) and told me that he didn't have to leave at 2 anymore. Coincidence? I think NOT.

So things just went along as they had been, shitty. He told me he thought he was getting depressed so I called him and wrote him e-mails, sent him online cards, everything I could do to help to cheer him up. I ended up continuing to talk to the stranger that had warned me about my b/f's attemp at stepping out, and coincidentally, met her. She and I became friends, and I had called him from her house (now note this was less than a week after he had contacted her and I caught him) and told him how I ended up at her house and how weird the circumstances were. Right away he started acting the way he had when we first dated...sweet, sincere, like he actually cared. He told me he would probably meet me that night at the bar that I go to, and that he wanted to see me. I called him when I got to the bar that night, he didn't answer. I called like an hour later and, yet again, he didn't answer. I waited all night, he never showed, he never even wrote me an e-mail to tell me why he didn't show, and evidently he didn't call. (But nothing new there.)

The next day, after I got home from a terrible day at work, he broke up with me out of nowhere OVER THE COMPUTER! Said he wasn't ready for a relationship, when in fact it was his idea to begin with. He was the one that pushed the idea and he had been chasing me for almost a year. He said he needed to get his act together and felt bad because he was "not paying enough attention to me." Not paying attention to me? Hello, earth on planet MAN! He wasn't even acknowledging the fact that I existed, let alone paying attention to me! He no longer said sweet things, he signed offline or rushed off when I messaged him or called. I spent all that time trying to cheer him up and telling all of my friends that they were wrong and that everything was going to be ok, because he kept saying that it was. All the while, he could have saved me the time and told me from the get go, but no. He strung me along, for god knows why, and then dropped me after all the time and effort I spent trying to make him happy and trying to make it work. Just goes to show that even the sweetest guyz are sour on the inside. Needless to say, we just broke up today, so this is fresh hate. ::giggles:: LOL. "I didn't throw that brick at his car window, officer, it fell out of my hand!"

Well, I have recently broken up with my boyfriend but I have to live with him because niether of us have any other place to go and he is so depressed. He really doesn't have a great job and he complains about a lot of stuff and one big reason I broke up with him was because he would give me an attitude for no reason. Well, now I have been spotted by another guy who I have been friends with, but now he flirts with me constantly and he has a girlfriend (at least he says so). He asked for my number before I knew he had a girlfriend and so I gave it to him because it never hurt to have another friend but he never calls. I want to scream at him but at the same time, I dont want anything to do with him because I am sick of getting treated like this.

I love your site....The sad thing is: women all over degrade themselves and let men degrade us. How would the world be if women everywhere stood up, didn't worry about sex appeal and kept their pants on? Men would still desire their wives, not the pin-ups. But until that day comes, it will continue to be a man's world. I am steadily thinking what can be done to degrade them and make them feel like sex objects. Any suggestions...

Thanks so much for your site, I really needed the laugh. After 12 years of marriage and 3 kids the poor baby (the man) just couldn't handle it anymore (for the 2nd time)...Awwwwww. I'm sure he'll feel much better after he has his fill of booze and whatever hole is desperate, willing and drunk enough to let him crawl into for a few seconds. With age comes wisdom? Must apply to women only. I give up with men. They win...they want to prove they are a$$holes and I totally agree with them...THEY ARE!

OK, I've had my rant and here is something I thought might bring a smile to someone else. I don't know who the author is, it was emailed to me from my sister in law shortly before hubby went on a mid-life crisis pity party -- I could definitely relate to it!

Dear Lord,
I pray for Wisdom to understand my man,
Love to forgive him,
Patience for his moods.
Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength...
I'll beat him to death!

Hi, I just wanted to bitch about my ex-boyfriend to someone. Sorry. Well, we were going out for 2 and a half years. He said he was 28 but he was 35 (I was 19). He said he was single (he was married). He said he didn't have any kids (he has a 14 year old). I HATE LIFE. I swear to god if I could kill myself and not go to hell and not hurt my parents, I would. Because I don't have any friends anymore. I was pregnant but then he decided he didn't want it so i got an abortion. I'm so sad. I hate life. I'm a joke. I was molested when I was 12 for almost a year. I had a perfect boyfriend when I was in high school but he fucked a stripper and got herpes B. I SWEAR LIFE IS WONDERFUL. I don't know how much more I can stand. I think I will just wait till my parents pass away when they're older and then kill myself 'cause it doesn't look good and it never has. I just left my job because my towel head, women hating boss smacked me in the face. I AM A JOKE. OK, well, thank you for listening to me. Sorry.

Men are so sad...treat you like shit, then when you leave they want you back. Jerk# 1 decides after months of blowing me off and breaking dates that he "misses me and wants to talk to me desperately." Well, I took care of that! I was the BIGGEST bitch, which isn't even in my nature. It was hard but damn it felt good to dish it out for once. Jerk #2 is the jerk of all jerks. We were about to get married and he gets "cold feet." He wants time to figure out what to "do with his life." Well, after I stayed with his poor ass for 18 months when he had nothing, and was nothing, he left. Fine. Long story short, he keeps me hanging by keeping in touch for a while only to tell me in E-MAIL that he bought a house, married someone else, and had another kid. Well, today it's a year after I got that pleasant news and he's nice enuff to say "Hi," and ask how its going. Fucking fuckhole.

I finally meet a wonderful guy (friend's brother in law), 23 years old. We hit it off and things are going great. I finally feel like I found someone really great. We sit in a coffee shop for 5 HOURS and just talk. We talk about realtionships and how I seem to find guys who are losers or emotionally unavailable.

DAY 2: We watch movies and hang out. Holding hands, hugging, and a tiny bit of kissing. I go home and can't stop smiling!

DAY 3...I'm off to the East coast for 5 days, I go over to say goodbye. He is different...distant. I figure it was because his brother was there. I go to take him to his parents house. He says, "So, what would you consider our relationship to be?" I'm like Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh not knowing how to safely answer the question. So I say, "I really really like you and if you were to ask me to be your girlfriend I would definitely say yes!" He's like ok. I really like you too.....BUT......I got out of a relationship and I'm not sure about jumping into another one right away. I want to just be friends with you and maybe down the road it can be more. I'm sitting there...stinging. BUT I can't do anything but agree with him and thank God that he was honest and told me before things got further along.

I drop him off and of course...PMS'ing...I get a little teary eyed. I go to see my friend (sis-in-law) and tell her want happened and she tells me..."Well, 3 days ago, he told me that he was giving his ex 2 months to change her mind." I'm like WHAAT??!?!

So now I'm a little conflicted because I really like him, but it is hard to go back to "just friends" and hang out and all that stuff. It pisses me off that I made it very clear...if you want to roll with me you best be emotionally secure and available. And then we end up huggy, kissy and then I get the "I'm not ready" speech. HELLO...what the hell? So...I've decided to just be celibate and give up on men. I'm tired of being on an emotional roller coaster. F*** it....not going there anymore. Men suck!!

Sorry if this is fucked up but I am drunk. Jagermeister! OK, this is my story. I have always been the good girl and I met this guy and he acted like he liked me but he would always say things like the girl should make the 1st move because he was to shy to do so. He was a"nice guy"and girls never like him, he is always the friend, etc. So one night, I had a little to much to drink and so stuff happened and now he is all like we are just friends and I can't be mad at him because I am a big girl and I take responsibility for my own actions but just to let all girls know one thing I have learned from all of this is that sex means nothing to men and as women, I think the biggest fuck up we do when it comes to sex is thinking that men are like us. And that sex is a part of caring and trusting love and not just having a good time. They can't think when their dick is hard. And we can't think when our hearts are in to it. So to all the young girls out there: MEN DON'T give a shit about what happens when the lights go down as long as they have a good time and they will use you to get off and act as if it never happened.

I just broke up with my now seconds-old ex over the phone. I suppose in a few days we'll meet to get our stuff back from each other. Right now I feel nothing but the most intense loathing of him, and I hope that feeling never fades. I'll be damned if I ever cry over this man! Women are SO superior to men, it actually makes me feel deep regret that I'm not a lesbian. Women almost completely hold society together. Men, though, are so basic...they're like animals who exist for the sole purpose of ejaculating and starting wars. When I met my boyfriend, he gave me fair warning that he was a commitmentphobe who didn't believe in marriage and was hated by most of the women he'd ever met. Naturally, I was attracted to this supermasculine, bad-boy loner and thought that I could nurture and love him into a gentleman. The mistake of the LAST 5 MILLENIA, folks. He actually did make some surprising strides, including moving hundreds of miles to be with me, and getting to the point where he regularly told me he loved me, but time has revealed that no amount of love will ever change the fact that this man is antisocial, alcoholic, negative, sexist, impatient and COMPLETELY INSENSITIVE to what he calls my "womanly emotions." He is a taker, not a giver. I hate to use cliches but I know every woman out there knows EXACTLY what I mean. He's not romantic at all and never does anything to make me feel special. I've tried to change that by giving him clear examples of simple things that would make me very happy, such as bringing me flowers or planning a date for us, and NOTHING happens. Proof that he is either completely braindead, or more likely, is just too self-absorbed to ever remember my needs.

At 25, and with a decent job with a lot of potential, he "just isn't ready" for marriage. He wants to remain a little boy and openly admits it, which I find disgusting and repulsive. He wanted me to live with him. I said not unless we're married. Why would I offer all my sexual, emotional, and domestic resources to someone around the clock when they don't really love me enough to get married?!? So he's going to move in with his best friend, a loser who is even more immature than him. This kid has had 2 DUI's, drinks, does drugs, everything.....my ex is 25, like I said before, and instead of growing up, he's reverting to some dumb bachelor pad fantasy, as if he's 18 and just went off to college. Unbelievable.

Not that I even WANT a proposal anymore anyway. Thank god my parents raised me to be a responsible adult with high self-esteem. I can now see with perfect clarity that he is NOT someone I truly want to end up tied to via marriage and/or kids. I finally made my decision after he told me part of his aversion to marriage involves a fear of complete monogamy for the rest of his life. Now, I asked him, and it's understandable, so that's okay. But THEN I said, "So I'm not enough for you? I don't satisfy you?" He relplied, "Well, I like all kinds." That kind of unsolicited brutal honesty is just plain hurtful. I mean come on, did he really HAVE to say that? No. There are some things that you just don't say. Obviously I'll only ever be one woman, one "kind"...so why would he tell me he wants something which there is no possible way I can provide him. Anyway, as soon as he said that, I felt like 90% of my love for him died. That just wiped out any affection I'd felt for him. I hope one day he ends up paying dearly for this obsession with his dick...child support or an STD! ha ha. Of course, I don't really want that, only because it would involve innocent women and babies.

You know, my best friend just married a WONDERFUL man, the last of a dying breed. He was EAGER to marry her. But you know why? Because they're both Catholic, and he knew he'd never get any until they married. Isn't that sad? Men are so basic, we really DO have to use our sexuality to con them into commitment. To all the women out there who are putting up with jerks: don't do it! get out! I know that the next man I get involved with is going to have to prove himself to be next to flawless before I'll put my heart and body on the line. To the lady who's putting up w/ some bastard's crap just so he'll halp pay her mortgage: WHAT??? Don't you realize your emotional health is worth more than any amount of money? You don't need his filthy money anyway. Drop him!

Okay, first of all, when I found this site I was sooooooooooooo happy!! It makes me very happy that all these strong beautiful women can have a place to vent and share with other women. However, I do have a few comments for everyone. #1 If you dont like men I'm not arguing, but there are a few who are genuinely nice and caring and good whether you choose to believe it or not #2 Guys who cant stand women telling the truth and feel the need to prove how big their penises are by making crass remarks about how all women are dykes, make me sick. NOTE: Wonder why you're not getting anything and why you're going to be sad and alone at the age of 35? TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR DUMB ASS!! #3 If we as women are actually going to break away from the time old system of continuously leaning on men for things, then we need to stop gossiping and backstabbing about our fellow women. Yes its okay to vent but just rememeber that sisterhood is important and necessary for our sanity so treat others how you would like to be treated. #5 Dont forget, there's nothing stopping you from using men yourself; you know you've got the charm and the intelligence to have whatever you want, so if you see a man, don't be afraid to use him and leave him if you want/need to.

Well, let's just say I did the unthinkable and believed this guy when he told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girl. I mean I have been hooking up with him randomly off and on since 7th grade!!! (I'm a junior in college). But this time, he made it believeable, told me I had to stop seeing my new man, not boyfriend yet, but had a good potential to be (who is actually a total sweetheart and loved me so much) and how I better not hurt him cause he loves me so much and he knows I'm aways at school and partying and all, but "please dont hurt me" and how he really wanted me to be his girl now. He said he loves me and I would be so perfect for him, and do I think it would work? Should we try it 'cause he really wants to be with me.... Yeah, well, I believed it - up until we had sex the next night and I havent heard from him since. Yeah, fucking great guy, huh? I love how he turned it around on me, please don't hurt me, BLAH BLAH BLAH making it seem like he was the one who has been dicked over repeatedly since SEVENTH fucking grade. I cant believe I still fall for his crap!!!!!! And I truly believed it this time!! I have no idea why or how but I fucking did. I just don't understand how he could do that to me, ruin my current relationship, make me believe we were going to have something, all for a fucking one night stand?????? He is the lowest of all fucking scum of the earth. And I say this after everytime he does this to me, and what happens? A couple months later or a year or two, I let it happen all over again! Well, this time I'm taking a stand. I don't need him popping up and coming and ruining my fucking life anymore!!!!! I just dont need it. Thanks, guys, for letting me rant and letting me read your rants cause I realized by seeing this, I dont need to take this, none of us do. There are perfect guys out there. We just have to find them and hold on to them and try to forget about those assholes and not let them back into our lives after they fuck up once, forget about a thousand times!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love this concept. I will be posting messages here frequently! Why would a man brag about all of the freaky sexual encounters he's had, how simple it was to get away with, and expect you to believe that he's completely true to you?

My husband has embedded into me a brand new emotion: Insecurity. At first, I learned from example. He constantly questions my fidelity. "Are you seeing someone at work?," "Did you sneak out of the house while I was sleeping last night?" I mean, what the hell!!!! A leopard never changes his spots! I hate the saying that you can't turn a ho into a housewife! Wrong! You can't turn a ho into a husband! Most women are naturally faithful. We are taught to be because we all want to be loved and we'd do just about anything to preserve true love when we get it.

He has a rock band! I should have listened to the old cliche, "Never date a musician." It seemed so stupid to me before, seeing as I am a musician as well. Anyway, I fell head over heels in love with him, wound up pregnant, and married him. (He asked me to marry him the second week we dated.) I figured I'd better marry him now that I was pregnant. Things were good but could have been better. Not easy but not impossible. Every weekend, I see him making eyes at various females in the crowd. He has special appearances from female artists he decided to "just give a chance." Then they disappear from the face of the earth, never to be seen again.

Now he comes home and tells me he quit his job and will now be working in the nightclub.

Fucking stupid men! I hate them, one and all! Not only am I moving in with my aunt, but I am swearing off men, like a sister said earlier, for the rest of the year! If you need a vehicle to do your dirt, you won't see me sitting in the passenger seat.

I fucking hate men. I was gonna leave it at that but I think I'll add my inspirational story! The last 3 guys I've been out with are nothing short of assholes. I'm only 18 years old and I've already learned that men are freaks. This one guy I went out with told me he was single so we went out. A week later, he tells me he's getting back together with an ex-girlfriend of his, which was fine by me! But then he keeps phoning me and asking me to come out with him and I, being an idiot, do it! Then all the pieces of his weirdness fell into place and I realised he'd still been with his long term girlfriend the whole time and is still cheating on her with numerous different women who, let's face it, are fucking stupid for letting him get away with it. I finally realised that I don't need him. I'm young, free, and single and don't have to rely on a "married" man (I say man in the loosest meaning of the word) to have fun with! In fact, I do not need ANY man and neither does any other woman! He still phones but now I just tell him I'm busy and lead him on the way he did to me and it feels great! Play them at their own game! Power to the ladies! Fight the good fight!

I stumbled upon your site by accident, and THANK GOD there are women that can relate to me. I thought I would share a quick experience with you. I met my current best friend 5 years ago (through her boyfriend). I'll call him Alf. Alf and his girlfriend and two beautiful young kids were my "two doors down" neighbors. Alf is really outgoing and so we started talking whenever we saw each other. His girlfriend seemed very introverted and never looked or spoke to anyone, so I kept my distance. For the two years that I lived by them, there were several episodes of drama in their little apartment. Several times the police came and arrested Alf, I used to hear screaming, yelling, cursing, and things breaking coming from their place. Whenever the girlfriend would leave for work, several young girls would show up at the apartment, even with the kids being there. (One time I went down to pay Alf a visit and he was in the bedroom with a 14 or 15 year old girl and the door was locked while the kids sat on the floor in the living room watching TV.) Sometimes, as I walked past their door the girlfriend would be walking in or out and her head would be down but I would notice bruises on her.

Soon, before I moved out, I developed a sense of hiding courage and decided to approach her. For a while she was wary of me, but eventually starting trusting me. As my friendship with the girlfriend (her name is Essie) grew, my friendship with Alf started diminishing. The more she liked me, the more he hated me. She soon confided in me that (obviously) he would beat her, threaten her, and apparently she was aware of the cheating. She said she had no family and Alf "scared away" all her friends. She was totally dependent on him 'cause she didn't want to be a single mom or on welfare. (At the time, I was a single mom on welfare.) Alf even refused to teach Essie how to drive. So I taught her. Essie told me I was her only friend and she was afraid of losing me. I told her the only way I would not be her friend is if SHE (not he) told me to go away. Even after I moved, I always called her and brought her and the kids to stay at my new apartment. I constantly was on her to leave Alf and encouraged her to find her independence. After he almost killed one of the kids, she came running to me for help. For the first time, she pressed charges on him and began to separate herself from him. She found affordable housing and many of the programs available for single parents. To this day she thanks me for helping her break free. She is a new woman and is VERY picky with whom she dates, she's not looking to get hitched anytime soon. The other day, she reminded me of what I told her several years ago, when I said that only she can tell me that we're not to be friends any more, no one else has that power. Then she gave me a hug.

OK, this is a bit odd and since I wasn't sure what to think, I decided to post it all. My gut tells me that the boyfriend found her original e-mail on the computer and wrote the follow-ups, pretending to be her but I can't say for sure. So...From Emily F and company....

I'm in high school and I have liked the same guy since the summer. He's always known and has always been pretty nice to me and at some points, even flirty. I recently found out that for the entire time he has been saying I'm like a little kid (he's a year older than me), he says that no matter what he will ALWAYS have me and that he could always call me but I'm not that attractive! Well, guess what MARK, I don't like you anymore and guess what? NO ONE ELSE DOES EITHER! I'm so sorry but your little pride parade is over...... the only girl who probably ever has and ever would like you has now realized what everyone else has realized.... you're a guy.

im replying bcause one of my friends posted that and i was wondering if u could not post it, bcuz some of it wasnt true thanks

So I said that I'm sorry, if I didn't post anything that the guy claimed "wasn't true," I would have no website and that I'm going on what the girl said and the next response was:

no, sorry this is getting confusing. my friend wrote it posing as me, on a situation that occured.Im a girl the situation was what seemed to have happened to me, but it was different then it sounded and he did nothing wrong, so please dont post it. thanks

Seemed to me like "he" changed to "she" after my last e-mail but I'll let you decide....

See... recently I got fucked over by my boyfriend or ex or whatever it is we are now... and suprisingly, Idid not cry. All these years of the same shit, guy after guy, have made me numb so I'm gonna be the same way I was when I was younger. I'm just going to stop caring. Men seem to appreciate you more when you're a bitch towards them and you treat them like shit. So I'm going to save all my actual feelings for a man who's actually worth it, although Idont believe he exists. But thanks to your site, it makes it easier to remember why I'm doing this... Men are grueling assholes!

My support of this site knows no bounds. Though I only found it today after finally realising what I've suspected about all men, they are sad, immature motherfuckers and we should pity them for having to live with the terrible burden of being male. I have now met one of the hugest dicks alive. I have admired this guy from afar for a month and last night, finally ended up at a party with him. I had an amazing night where we finally got it together. Ithen sent him a text message to say that I had a good time and did he want to do it again sometime? And then he sent one back saying the only reason it happened was because he was drunk and he's seeing someone!! So he couldn't and didn't really want to. It would be understandable if this guy was Brad Pitt, but believe me, HE AIN'T NO BRAD PITT!! So there you go. Why do they feel the need to do this to us? I mean what the hell did I do to deserve that?! I'm not some crazy stalker or indeed a complete dog (at least I hope not). He just thought he'd completely lead me on!!! DICKS COMPLETE DICKS ALL OF THEM. STUPID, BLIND, NUMB, SHIT FACED TWATS, and thats all I have to say on the matter. I'm sorry my mouth isn't normally this dirty but that is just the way I feel on the matter, the hurt is still fresh and the wound still sore.

This man is wacky. I have bent over backwards trying to help him with a job. He finally thinks he has it - a bartender. Why that? Because he does not want to be drug tested because he will come up positive. Really smart here. (ha) Then he gets mad at me because I will not perform. I am allergic to this shit he has to smoke. And that's all he can do is smoke it. He wants to smoke it before we get into bed. Well that doesn't happen. But all this is my fault. Because I will not be with him. Or support him. I can not talk to him because he will not listen. I am unable to discuss anything with him because he puts me down. The messages he leaves on my phones.... He has called me everything in the book. But tells me I am a good person. What kind of crap is that? Either its one or the other. I have gone through some personal help classes for me. And I am the one with anger problems. He
yells screams and tears his things up. Who is the wacky one here? I have had it with these men who have no idea what its like to run a house and have children in order to be in a family but low and behold they can lay down and produce sperm. Yippie. I am appalled at some of the things that come out of his mouth about me and to me. Yet I am still a good person to him. How can someone not forget what he has said to me? I no longer answer his phone calls. And the messages I have to listen to, to be able to erase them so I put the phone down so I do not have to hear them. They are bad. Really mean and sick. I do not know how someone who is so mad at the world can be like this. He is just sick. But he is not the one with the problem. What a crock of shit. Quit with the excuses because they are just lame. I am sorry to say that I really am beginning to be much happier without them all. Maybe I do have relationship problems, but I still do not deserve this.

What Ireally f**king hate about men is when they say to you, "No, I love you so much. I don't like her anymore" or "I dont like her." They then proceed to slag her off all the time (wah wah she fucking mental wahwah) and the very moment you break up they're going out with her! What the f**k! Then they defend her to you and act like they didn't say all that when you question them on it!

I hate men. My boyfriend is an a$$hole 'cause I need to ask him everything in fear that he'll get mad, and I don't care anymore. I have had to ask him (many things, but this peeved me) if I could start a conversation with him. I had to ask HIM! I don't know why I put up with his crap, really. I have read just about everything here there is to read, and the thing that is so my boyfriend is "what he says: I heard you, I just have things on my mind. And what he means is: I was wondering if that brunette over there is wearing a bra." I hate men, and if I could find the right woman, I'd be going out with one. Ugh... They are more work than what they're worth, seriously. I am sure everyone can agree with me. Well, you have a WONDERFUL site, and it is so true, and my mother loves it too, and she's old enough to be able to really compare. I first heard of your site on a TV show a while ago, I don't remember which one though, sorry. Well, I am going to return to your site now, and see everything again! Thank you.

I'm only young and already Ihate men. They say that girls want to find someone like their daddy when they're all grown up. So does that mean I will end up with a cheating, alcoholic, woman-hating freak?

Hello, my name is Randi and I come from Norway. I got your address from the Ricki Lake show!!!!! I have given my man everything and I mean everything! Our relationship hasn't always been good. He travels a lot and can't sit still. He is 30 years old and doesn't have a job! I think he is a big scrub!!!! He plays music keyboard, that's why he has to travel. So he says!! One time he went on a trip to England and stayd there for a whole year!!!!!! We also have a kid together. He's 3 years old now! But I waited for him a WHOLE year!!!! I loved him, what was I supposed to do??? GOD, I hated him too!! I have forgiven him too many times but I love him!!!!! We always worked it out before but six months ago, he went on a trip again, gave me a big kiss, held me tight, and said see you in a week, honey!!! Love you..... and I haven`t seen him since!! Nobody has seen or heard from him!!! I HATE HIM SO MUCH!!!!!!! But I can't hate him....My son loves him and asks where he is??? I don't know what to say any more!!! I hope he comes home soon or at least calls and tells his son that he is all right!!!!! I don`t care anny more but for his son`s sake!!!! COOL web !!!

Entropy, OR
Message: i just found out that my asshole of a boyfriend has been dating someone for almost half a year since I have been out of state. the retard left his e-mail open and I found letters from his girlfriend (only recent ones since I have been living with him again). I hope he burns in hell.